You will Fail at some point in your Life! You will Lose!

You will Fail at some point in your Life! You will Lose! You will embarrass yourself; You will suck at something, no doubt about it.

I heard this statement from a University Graduation Speech. Many of us know that failure is a part of life. Many of us also know that Failure is not the end of your story. Let’s take a look at some notable failures.

Henry Ford – His first two companies failed. He then incorporated the Ford Motor Company and then became the first to apply assembly line manufacturing to the production of affordable automobiles.

Albert Einstein – When Einstein was young his parents thought he was mentally retarded. His grades in school were so poor that a teacher asked him to quit, saying, “Einstein, you will never amount to anything!” Also he didn’t speak until he turned 4 and didn’t read until he was 7.

We know him as the theoretical physicist widely regarded as the most important scientist of the 20th century. He was awarded the 1921 Nobel Prize for Physics for his explanation of the photoelectric effect in 1905 and “for his services to Theoretical Physics”.

Walt Disney – Disney started his own business from his home garage and his very first cartoon production went bankrupt. During his first press conference, a newspaper editor ridiculed Walt Disney because he had no good ideas for film production.

Disney was an American film producer, director, screenwriter, voice actor, and animator. One of the most well-known motion picture producers in the world, Disney founded a production company. The corporation, now known as ‘The Walt Disney company’, makes average revenue of US $30 billion annually.

What happens when you fail? What happens when you get fired from a job, you are a track star and you have been preparing for years to get to the Olympics and you don’t make the team? There are many steps in life to which you could fail. As you see from just the 3 people noted above, failure was just the first step. Failure is actually the beginning. But how do you turn that failure into the next step? Let’s take a look.

What are you going to do now?

You frankly have two choices. You can sit where you are and sulk, be sorry for yourself. Sit in the failure and do nothing. Give up! Or you can pull yourself from the darkness and point yourself to the new light. Everyone I think has heard of the analogy “There is a light at the end of the tunnel.” You make the decision to step out of the darkness. You see, when you are in the darkness, you want to sit there and wait for the light to come to you. It really doesn’t work that way. The above analogy about the light and the tunnel works only if you are moving forward towards the light. Sometime you do not know how far away the light is. You don’t know how far a destination will be to travel to the light. I know this, you cannot sit and wait for it to come to you. The light will ‘never’ come closer to you without you moving toward it, Never.  Step toward the light is to face your fear. When you are in the dark, you are also at a point to where you are unable to see. When you get to the light, you are able to see what you have been facing. Being in the darkness is uncomfortable, That is why the only way out may be to create your own light. If you are in a tunnel, you could use a flashlight to see. That is a temporary light. A light to use in the failure of natural light, but it is still a light.

Each of the 3 notables above failed. What did they do next? They failed forward. Albert Einstein said that “Imagination is more than knowledge. Knowledge is limited, Imagination encircles the world”. Henry Ford said this about Failure, “Failure is simply the opportunity to start again, this time more intelligently.” They took their failures, modified the processes, and/or scrapped the whole initial idea but they started again. Another notable people may know is Michael Jordan. He was so common of a person in High School that he was dismissed for his ‘lack of skill’. Michael says this about Failure: “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

I would like for you to do this as a test. Right now, close your eyes. Shut them tight. What do you see? Yes, nothing. Darkness perhaps. I challenge you to dream. Dream of what you want the most. When you close your eyes, you are allowing yourself to temporarily enter into darkness. Take a moment to dream. Or this, think of a time in the day which is the best for you. Then close your eyes and dream. The very next thing you do when you are done dreaming is what? Open your eyes. How now then can you see to achieve your dream if you are still in the dark?

I have had failure in my life. I have been fired from two jobs. Jobs that I dreamed of doing. Jobs I saw myself in for a long time. The first for making a silly decision and the second for not applying the proper knowledge. I had the knowledge but I was not applying it. I wanted to think that the job was going to get done by itself. OH I was there everyday. I would call myself at that time in life as a manager. A person that sat at a desk and told people what to do. A person who fired people quicker than I could higher them. Was that a highlight of my life? I say no. Was it a teachable moment? Oh yes! I learned what not to do. I learned to fail forward. To learn from my failure and do it right the next time. I was in a dark place then. At that time I thought the distance between my dream and reality was a long way off. I was stuck. Stuck in a place I did not want to be.

What would your life be like if you decided to let your fears not stop you?

People that are hungry are “No matter what people.” They get what they want “No matter what.” Faith, hope and confidence will lead you to your dream. If you are not that hungry person, you need to change your mindset. Looking at New Years Resolutions, people do real well in January, February, March and maybe even April. But then they start losing focus. They start losing focus on their dream. They started because the had the right mindset. They knew what they wanted, a better physique, loss of weight, quit smoking, be a better person. Insert your “Resolution” in there. Did you achieve what you set out to do? What stopped you? I guarantee that you lost focus!

Remember above I asked you to close your eyes. Now open them and See. See what it is that you want to do. What do you want? What is it? Whatever it is, I say that if you do not get out of bed, if you are still in the dark, if you still feel lousy about yourself, you will not move forward. The days you feel like quitting and the only thing that is going to make you get out of the bed for the day, is what you see!!

You are going to make a lot of mistakes, but hold your head up. No matter what you do and everything goes wrong, Hold your head up! You have to have the character to hold your head up. Walk with a different type of spirit. GET UP! Les Brown also says, Hold your head up. When you are working at your dream, what you become in the process is more than the dream. Someone once said “The harder the battle, the sweeter the victory”. Oh come on sweet tooth!! The kind of person you become, the character that you built, the faith that you have manifested. You get up in the morning and people see a different person. You will fail, you will lose, but get up and hold your head up and become your dream and get into the light.

The Giraffe vs. The Turtle

As a continuation from my previous post, we look at the giraffe.

A giraffe doesn’t start out looking like a giraffe. As an adult, its neck can be 9 feet long. His total height can be 16-20 feet. He is not born with a long neck. He would not be able to traverse the womb and the birth canal that way. So when he comes forth, he doesn’t really look like a giraffe, because all of his attributes have not come to fruition. The reason he is so short and stubby is so that he can pass from one world to the next. The thought that comes to mind here is this, “Don’t judge me from where I start, Judge me how I finish.”

Let’s look a little deeper. You know for sure that a turtle is much smaller that a giraffe. Do you then know that the same two can occupy the same space? The turtle can be in the same exact space as the giraffe by laying in between the legs of the giraffe. The only difference is they have different world views. The giraffe can be in the same geographical location as the turtle but the giraffe eats from the tops of the trees and the turtle eats of the grass below. Two different views. What happens to most people is we eat on the level of our vision. When you are a giraffe and you get criticism from turtles, the turtles are reporting on the level that they are on.

If you understand this, you will be moved by what they say. You see, sometimes it isn’t what they are saying isn’t true, because they know of you behavior in the past and they have defined you how you were, and they don’t necessarily understand who you are. You see, they’re understanding of who you are will incarcerate you to who you were because they will keep dragging you to your lower self instead of you evolving to your higher self.

Don’t get distracted by the comments of the turtle. I remember a story told of a writer that had a column in the Wall Street Journal. Over and over the editor would tell the writer, keep the articles coming, our readers love what you are putting out. After just a few short weeks, the writer stopped writing. He was looking through the column and was reading some of the comments. Wow, they must not like me, these are awful comments. The editor called and asked why he wasn’t writing any longer. He said, well I was looking at the comment of some of the readers and I really don’t think they like what I am writing. She said, Oh on the contrary, those that write the awful comments are not our readers, our readers are ones who hold at least a master’s degree or higher. The people writing those comments don’t even know how to spell. She said, you cannot use the comments as an indication of the audience, because our readers don’t even have time to comment. The writer thought for a moment and said, Oh my gosh, I am losing the opportunity to talk to the giraffes because I was distracted by the comments of the turtles.

In every person’s life, there are giraffes and there are turtles. Remember I said they can occupy the same space, the turtle is geographically located on the same space as the giraffe. Neither one of them is lying. The turtle is eating on the level of his vision and the giraffe is eating on the level of his vision, and whenever turtles comment on giraffes, you cannot trust the comments of the turtle because they are reporting on their own world view.

They are always gonna be in your business. They are always going to give their opinion. The turtle is right between the legs of the giraffe. Always grumbling and trying to set the tone. Don’t let the comments of the turtle get in your way of success. The giraffe eats from the tops of the trees because they can. Don’t stoop down to eat the grass.

Finally, when you look at a giraffe, how many times do you see a giraffe looking down for something to eat. Never. It eats from the tops of the trees as mentioned, because he can. It is unable to reach the ground by standing. Even at the zoo, the handler has to put the giraffes food high up so that he can eat. How are you eating. Are you eating from the tops of the trees? Are you able to say that I am stepping into my dream rather that just posting photos of your dream on the wall? Are you gaining the best information you can and being providing the best of the tops of the trees as you can? If not, it is time to make a change. Don’t be a bottom feeder.